Foung this in the iwa-pele discussion on Yahoo Groups and loved it enough to share.
(iwa-pele is the Yoruba concept of “good and noble character”.)
Practicing the Principles in Our Relationships
12 Traditions for Relationships
by Maryel McKinley, Ph.D., C.A.D.C
1. Our Common welfare should come first. A healthily relationship depends
2. For our family purpose, there is but one authority – a loving God as
He/She expresses Him/Herself in our family conscience. Each partner is God’s
trusted servant. Neither governs.
3. The basic requirement for a good marriage or relationship is a mutual
desire to make it work.
4. Each partner should be autonomous except in matters affecting the other
partner, the family, or society as a whole.
5. Each marriage or relationship has but one primary purpose: to serve as an
expression of God’s love.
6. A partner ought not be overly supportive spiritually, emotionally and
physically to the marriage lest problems of ego gratification divert him or
her from the primary purpose.
7. Each partner ought to strive to be fully self supporting spiritually,
emotionally and physically.
8. The marriage or relationship should remain forever a free, giving
relationship, from one to the other.
9. A family or relationship should be pliable in its organization but our
group consciousness may appoint certain persons responsible for various
10. The family ought to not let outside issues and public controversy
destroy the relationship.
11. Each partner best conveys his or her beliefs and philosophies by
attraction rather than promotion.
12. Anonymity is a valuable asset for the marriage or relationship.
Selflessness is the spiritual foundation of our way of life as marriage
partners or friends, ever reminding us to place principles before